I've just got back from a visit to England, and since coming back to Canada I've done a lot of thinking and want to thank the 2 most amazing ladies I'll ever have the good luck to know.
Where do I start, first, I Love You MuM :D...
My Dad died over 35 yrs ago leaving my mum with 8 children from 6yrs to 17yrs, what a handful we really were ;p. She worked 2 and 3 jobs at a time, yet when you talk to her now she says she feels guilty for not being there with us whilst we were growing up... Mum you were there! I remember you getting up early to send us off to school making sure there was food on the table and clean clothes to wear, we love you mum and I for 1 want to thank you for everything you have done xxx
Years later, she re-married and started to live her life again, only having to work at 1 job :D taking holidays abroad, I'm not saying life was easy for her, she now had 8 grown up kids to give her grief, lol.
Then it happened again, Fred was diagnosed with cancer, she cared for him till the end, not believing it could happen twice :(
A few years later she had a heart attack, and was shocked " there isn't a history of heart problems in our family" maybe not, but after everything you've had to deal with maybe its time to slow down.
The hospital weren't going to allow you home because there was nobody else in the house, I never knew this, you told us later you didn't want to be a burden :O I was so upset when you told me this, you'll never be a burden, you have done so much for us.
A friend, John, offered to stay with you till you were back on your feet, your relationship developed and he stayed :D. It was great to see you happy again, it was like you had a new lease of life, going on holidays and doing things that made you both happy.
John became a hero, and I just hope he realised how grateful we were to him. He saved your life, when your heart stopped, rushing you to hospital where they fitted an emergency pacemaker.
Then it happened again John was diagnosed with lung cancer, you were both so brave. You were going to enjoy every minute you had together, but less than a week later you had a major car accident which left you both battered and bruised, again you felt guilty because we spent our vacation driving to York to visit you in hospital...we love you Mum!!
John insisted he would beat it and live for another 10 years, unfortunately this wasn't meant to be, 5 weeks later he passed away leaving you devastated again...
I read something, that Jasmin wrote recently, it said " I love my nana she is the most courageous and brave lady I know" this is only 1 of the many messages I have read from your grandchildren, all saying the same kind of thing. :D
I think the grandkids speak for us all....
Mum number 2, lol...
Again an amazing lady, Rogers mum... love you loads.
When Roger was 18 months old, and his sister was only 6 weeks his dad survived a brain haemhorage, he had operations to stem the bleeding and spent almost 3 years in hospital, approx 60 kms away from home.
With 2 young children and elderly mum living with her, Alma travelled backwards and forwards to visit him using public transport, which 40 years ago wasn't the easiest mode of transport.
The operations left John physically and mentally disabled, unable to walk or talk. Many people would have walked away but not Alma.
When John was allowed home she was his wife, mother and carer, she had to do everything for him, washing, feeding, caring for him, and 2 young children along with an elderly mum, even rolling his cigarettes lol. It can't have been easy for her with no wages, having to live on benefits and be Mum and Dad to Roger and Zy.
As time went on John learnt to speak and walk again with lots of support from his family...
A few months before John passed away he was re-united with his 2 daughters from a previous marriage, he hadn't seen them for years, they had been told he'd died when he had the hemorrhage. :(
The day we were all introduced he was beaming he'd got all his family together, he didn't or couldn't talk much and we couldn't always understand what he was saying ;(, but he had us all laughing when he clearly said to Roger " oh no son,more women to nag us"
what a character!!
Sadly he passed away suddenly before Roger and I got married. Leaving Alma devastated, after caring for John for more than 30 yrs.
Two strong and courageous Ladies we both love and miss so much.
It makes you realise that no matter what life throws at you, you should learn by the experience and live life to the full, don't waste time with regrets, there is always somebody worse off...
"Do what you like, and like what you do" and if you don't like it change it!!!
I certainly will!!
I certainly will!!
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